When we get understanding, typically some questions are answered and insights are generated. As we go along, we often like to think we are learning how things are.
Today I would like to posit that *maybe*, what you are really learning about is yourself and the way you look at things and not the other way around.
The reason why a lot of quick fixes fail is because they do not generate an internal change that the person can get behind. It is easy to fake character, knowledge or even empathy, but fake yourself into a real situation where your character, knowledge or empathy are tested and you will be in for a real disappointment. Anybody who’s tried confidence-boosting tricks can surely testify that it’s no good psyching yourself up if deep down inside you still feel like you have very little to offer whether as a friend, partner or colleague.
The people who advance successfully work on themselves first and the way they look at the world. It is only when you have a different point of view that you can change your attitude and actions accordingly. Sure, at first you will be looking out for opportunities to act upon on purpose, and that’s fine when you are trying to get into a routine or a habit. But I would draw the baseline for success a little bit further along, where the insight has caused you to rethink your prejudices, values and priorities.
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